Enabling Verses LOVING as a FOOD ADDICT
Article #6 OF 8: TO LOVE OR NOT TO LOVE...THAT IS THE QUESTION.
Enabling Verses LOVING as a FOOD ADDICT...
In stage 6 of you may be experiencing difficulties related to ‘Sharing your Self’ with others (and/or struggling with your partner sharing themselves with you). This may show up as problems with intimacy AND/OR as isolation in relationship. Either polarized experience is a form of frustrated Mutual Loving, which, unresolved, results in feeling unfulfilled and discontent in relationship.
These potential food addiction and other symptoms may show up as:
Empty, or 'unfull-filling' relationships...
Prejudice, narrow-mindedness—perceiving differences as threatening
Avoiding commitments
Fear of losing control
Avoiding sharing yourself emotionally
Avoiding physical contact—for fear that this could lead to intimacy
Difficulty discerning appropriate boundaries—feeling either ‘compelled to be wide open’, leaving yourself overly exposed and vulnerable to potential threats OR feeling ‘compelled to be closed off’, refusing to share yourself with others
I propose that these symptoms are not really your issue. They are only the physical results stemming from the ERRONEOUS CONCLUSIONS YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY MADE ABOUT YOUR SELF (BASED ON A MISPERCEPTION OF REALITY) during the crucial stage of development that occurs between AGES 20 to 35 YEARS OLD*.
In a well-intended effort to AVOID A REPEAT EXPERIENCE OF EMOTIONAL PAIN that inevitably accompanies these misperceptions, you PROGRAMMED CERTAIN DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE BEHAVIOR.
The problems you are experiencing are THE PHYSICAL WORLD RESULTS OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS BEHAVIORAL PROGRAMS you ‘made-up’ with your inexperienced mind.
The results, and inherent limitations, of your programs are now being reflected to you for reevaluation—this time from the perspective of your expanded experience.
In stage #5, I introduced the theory that your outer experience is simply a mirror—a LITERAL, ACCURATE REFLECTION OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ISSUE. If you are not ready or willing to see this reflection, you will not be able to recognize it. Even hearing me say this may bring up feelings of anger or resentment inside of you.
This is simply your EGO DOING ITS JOB of OBEYING YOUR ORIGINAL COMMAND, keeping the misunderstood aspect of your Self (the aspect you’ve inadvertently condemned) under lock and key—until you are CONSCIOUSLY READY to invite this aspect back into ‘all of the potentials that you are’.
Your condemned potentials are communicating literal, symbolic messages. It is only a MATTER OF TIME until you recognize them. Your life will persistently present you with ‘compelling evidence’ until you are READY AND WILLING TO REINTEGRATE ALL THAT YOU ARE.
Experiencing difficulty in your loving relationships is your experiential mirror reflecting that you are having difficulty ‘Loving All Aspects of your Self’ (specifically the aspect that is being reflected to you).
A subconscious program of ‘Conditional Self Love’ has played itself out and has produced its results for you to experience in a physical form. You are being given the opportunity, from your perspective of mature adult experience, to evaluate the variables and re-decide your original issue.
STAGE SIX PROGRAMMING –20 to 35 YEARS OLD:
I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT I LEARNED:
(1)-TO LOVE CONDITIONALLY AND
(2)-TO ACCEPT ‘BEING LOVED CONDITIONALLY’ THROUGH SUGGESTION, MODELING, AND REINFORCEMENT.
(3) AS A CONSCIOUS ADULT, I ULTIMATELY GET TO COMPARE WHAT I’VE BEEN TAUGHT WITH MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
(4) I GET TO DECIDE WHAT CONDITIONS (IF ANY) I AM WILLING TO PLACE UPON MY SELF AND MY LOVING.
I AM CONSCIOUSLY BECOMING AWARE THAT MY ESSENTIAL NATURE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I AM ALSO AWARE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SET, AND HONOR, MY OWN BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS. AS I CONSCIOUSLY FILTER OUT AND RE-DECIDE THE ‘NECESSARY CONDITIONS’** I HAVE UNINTENTIONALLY ACCEPTED AND ATTACHED TO MY LOVING, I REALIZE THAT LOVE (LOVING AND BEING LOVED) IS MY PRIMARY MOTIVATION—THE SPARK, THAT IGNITES ALL THAT I DO.
What is love?
Before moving forward any further, I wish to further define what I mean by the highly misunderstood term ‘Love’. Love is a Way of Being. We learn what love is through experience. Therefore, UNREFINED, the word ‘love’ implies different meaning to different people. When I speak of ‘True’ Love, I mean PURE LOVE—the ‘Way of Being Real and Accurate’ AS A MEANS, IN AND OF ITSELF. I am speaking of the ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE OF LOVE that remains after BEING DISTILLED AND SEPARATED FROM ANY AND ALL OTHER ELEMENTAL MOTIVATIONS OR INTENTIONS.
Now onto Stage six programming…in your subconscious.
The Sixth Stage is the developmental stage of Young Adulthood (age 20-35 years old). This is generally the companionship and love-seeking stage. As such, the most significant relationships are those found with the friends and romantic associations we seek to build mutually satisfying relationships with.
Recall that from Stage Five on, your development depends primarily upon the conclusions you make about your Self in relation to your own behaviors. During Stage Six THE CONCLUSIONS YOU MAKE ABOUT YOUR SELF, IN RESPONSE TO YOUR EXPERIENCES OF LOVING AND BEING LOVED, IN PARTNERSHIP ARE CRUCIALLY IMPORTANT. You are being given the opportunity to DEFINE, AND CLARIFY, WHAT YOUR EXPERIENCE OF ‘TRUE’ LOVE IS (BOTH IN GIVING AND RECEIVING).
This process is occurring regardless of whether or not you are aware of it. As you progress, you may be pleasantly surprised, and relieved, to discover that ‘TRUE’ LOVE is a much different, and much more vast experience than you were TAUGHT TO EXPECT.
If you successfully separated and established your unique Sense of Self during Stage Five, you move on unimpeded to the task of negotiating Mutual Loving in intimate*** relationships.
If your Stage Five task remains unresolved, your relationships will serve up further experience that will press you towards completing this necessary developmental task.
It is critical that you BECOME AWARE THAT INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS WILL REVEAL YOUR UNRESOLVED ISSUES. The CORE ISSUE IS NOT OUTSIDE OF YOU. Your partner serves as a LITERAL MIRROR RELECTING YOUR INNERMOST FLAWED PROGRAMMING.
In order to realize inner peace and happiness, YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FACE YOUR REFLECTION.
An individual who has not developed a clear sense of identity in Stage Five may withdraw into isolation (mental, emotional or physical), unconsciously fearing what they might see in the reflection of committed relationship.
During Stage Six you learn:
1. How to Commit (or Devote) your Self in Trust while maintaining Rightful Guardianship of all aspects of your Self,
2. How to Let Go of control while still Lovingly Supporting your Self, and
3. How to Freely Choose to Express Love to others.
Realizing that your loved ones are your mirrors to Self Awareness, as you spontaneously and unconditionally experience love for them, you DISCOVER WHICH ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY DECIDED TO DISOWN—which aspects you were taught to believe are ‘unacceptable’ programs. Seen in this light, devoted relationships (partnership, marriage, parenthood, etc.) gift you the opportunity:
4. TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. By this I mean, to BE REAL IN EXPRESSING YOURSELF ACCURATELY WITHOUT CONDITION. BY SO DOING, YOU AUTOMATICALLY BEGIN TO RECLAIM ALL OF THE ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU HAVE PREVIOUSLY CONDEMNED.
Successful completion of Stage Six results in Mutually Satisfying Loving Relationships evidenced by the liberating sense of:
UNDERSTANDING FOOD ADDICTION...
“I Am Loving, and I Am Being Loved. I Am experiencing balanced, flowing, fulfilling reciprocity in my relationships. I Am experiencing ‘INTIMACY with SPACE TO EXPAND’ and ‘UNITY with RESPECT FOR INDEPENDENCE’ in my relationships with my Self and others.”
Experiencing Conditional Love and Lack of Mutuality in your relationships, may further perpetuate misunderstanding as to what Love really is. If I were to categorize my experiences of loving into one of only two possible categories—(1)-Love, or (2)-Not Love—the experience of ‘Being Loved Conditionally’ would fit in the ‘Not Love’ category.
For example, experiencing affection and other ‘loving’ behaviors withdrawn from you when you conform, or don’t conform, to certain standards is ‘Not Love’. This form of behavioral control and manipulation disguised as Love, if not recognized and called out as ‘Not Love’, reinforces the notion that your lovability is defined by your willingness to behave in certain ways. This experience of Not Being Truly Loved results in the underlying subconscious misperception:
“I Am not worth Being Loved.”
Control and Manipulation may be efforts to Love that are, in fact, ‘Not Love’. These Ways of Being can breed dependency, enslavement and addiction. ‘True’ Love breeds Free Will, Independence and Trust. The spiritual teaching, ‘By their fruits ye shall know them'**** applies. Many people in our culture have a difficult time comprehending the possibility of Loving, and Being Loved, Unconditionally. If you are one of them, I can help.
You were born Worthy of Being Loved. PURE LOVE is what you are.
HERE IS ESSENTIAL TRUTH of stage #6 SUBCONSCIOUSLY Programming
You possess the potential for every behavior that exists in the human condition, including those you judge as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. Every aspect you judge in another, you have SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED IN YOUR SELF.
Every aspect you’ve judged in yourself, YOU WILL BE COMPELLED TO CONDEMN IN OTHERS.
Your intimate relationships effectively mirror these condemned aspects to you—juxtaposed in the perplexing contradiction of feeling both Affection and Disgust towards someone you ‘Love.’
All of the potential aspects you have cast out will eventually demand your acknowledgement, acceptance, appreciation and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
As you effectively resolve the struggles you experience in your loving relationships—especially the experiences you find repulsive—you enroll the Unlimited Resources of All Aspects of your Intelligence, reclaim your Authority, and enhance your potential.
By UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING ANOTHER, you re-integrate the potential aspects of your Whole Self that you previously condemned.
THE SOLUTION:
LOOK AT THE ‘MIRRORS’ YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE PROVIDING FOR YOU. IDENTIFY AND OBSERVE THE ASPECTS YOU JUDGE AS ‘UNACCEPTABLE’ IN OTHERS. RECOGNIZING THESE JUDGMENTS AS LITERAL REFLECTIONS OF ‘PARTS OF YOUR SELF’ YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED, INTERPRET THE IMAGE AND ACCEPT YOUR CO-CREATIVE ROLE IN THE SITUATION.
Changing your flawed programming requires:
1. Opening your mind to the possibility that you’ve accepted limiting operations that are not necessarily true,
2. Locating the limiting program,
3. Challenging the truth of the program’s previously accepted limitations and
4. Consciously asserting and reinforcing your newly decided expansive conclusion.
If you are serious about changing, I encourage you to schedule
a FREE CONSULTATION with the treatment method I recommend:
Click Here: http://www.TheLiberatorMethod.com
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NOTES:
Enabling Verses LOVING as a FOOD ADDICT...
In stage 6 of you may be experiencing difficulties related to ‘Sharing your Self’ with others (and/or struggling with your partner sharing themselves with you). This may show up as problems with intimacy AND/OR as isolation in relationship. Either polarized experience is a form of frustrated Mutual Loving, which, unresolved, results in feeling unfulfilled and discontent in relationship.
These potential food addiction and other symptoms may show up as:
Empty, or 'unfull-filling' relationships...
Prejudice, narrow-mindedness—perceiving differences as threatening
Avoiding commitments
Fear of losing control
Avoiding sharing yourself emotionally
Avoiding physical contact—for fear that this could lead to intimacy
Difficulty discerning appropriate boundaries—feeling either ‘compelled to be wide open’, leaving yourself overly exposed and vulnerable to potential threats OR feeling ‘compelled to be closed off’, refusing to share yourself with others
I propose that these symptoms are not really your issue. They are only the physical results stemming from the ERRONEOUS CONCLUSIONS YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY MADE ABOUT YOUR SELF (BASED ON A MISPERCEPTION OF REALITY) during the crucial stage of development that occurs between AGES 20 to 35 YEARS OLD*.
In a well-intended effort to AVOID A REPEAT EXPERIENCE OF EMOTIONAL PAIN that inevitably accompanies these misperceptions, you PROGRAMMED CERTAIN DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE BEHAVIOR.
The problems you are experiencing are THE PHYSICAL WORLD RESULTS OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS BEHAVIORAL PROGRAMS you ‘made-up’ with your inexperienced mind.
The results, and inherent limitations, of your programs are now being reflected to you for reevaluation—this time from the perspective of your expanded experience.
In stage #5, I introduced the theory that your outer experience is simply a mirror—a LITERAL, ACCURATE REFLECTION OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ISSUE. If you are not ready or willing to see this reflection, you will not be able to recognize it. Even hearing me say this may bring up feelings of anger or resentment inside of you.
This is simply your EGO DOING ITS JOB of OBEYING YOUR ORIGINAL COMMAND, keeping the misunderstood aspect of your Self (the aspect you’ve inadvertently condemned) under lock and key—until you are CONSCIOUSLY READY to invite this aspect back into ‘all of the potentials that you are’.
Your condemned potentials are communicating literal, symbolic messages. It is only a MATTER OF TIME until you recognize them. Your life will persistently present you with ‘compelling evidence’ until you are READY AND WILLING TO REINTEGRATE ALL THAT YOU ARE.
Experiencing difficulty in your loving relationships is your experiential mirror reflecting that you are having difficulty ‘Loving All Aspects of your Self’ (specifically the aspect that is being reflected to you).
A subconscious program of ‘Conditional Self Love’ has played itself out and has produced its results for you to experience in a physical form. You are being given the opportunity, from your perspective of mature adult experience, to evaluate the variables and re-decide your original issue.
STAGE SIX PROGRAMMING –20 to 35 YEARS OLD:
I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT I LEARNED:
(1)-TO LOVE CONDITIONALLY AND
(2)-TO ACCEPT ‘BEING LOVED CONDITIONALLY’ THROUGH SUGGESTION, MODELING, AND REINFORCEMENT.
(3) AS A CONSCIOUS ADULT, I ULTIMATELY GET TO COMPARE WHAT I’VE BEEN TAUGHT WITH MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
(4) I GET TO DECIDE WHAT CONDITIONS (IF ANY) I AM WILLING TO PLACE UPON MY SELF AND MY LOVING.
I AM CONSCIOUSLY BECOMING AWARE THAT MY ESSENTIAL NATURE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I AM ALSO AWARE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SET, AND HONOR, MY OWN BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS. AS I CONSCIOUSLY FILTER OUT AND RE-DECIDE THE ‘NECESSARY CONDITIONS’** I HAVE UNINTENTIONALLY ACCEPTED AND ATTACHED TO MY LOVING, I REALIZE THAT LOVE (LOVING AND BEING LOVED) IS MY PRIMARY MOTIVATION—THE SPARK, THAT IGNITES ALL THAT I DO.
What is love?
Before moving forward any further, I wish to further define what I mean by the highly misunderstood term ‘Love’. Love is a Way of Being. We learn what love is through experience. Therefore, UNREFINED, the word ‘love’ implies different meaning to different people. When I speak of ‘True’ Love, I mean PURE LOVE—the ‘Way of Being Real and Accurate’ AS A MEANS, IN AND OF ITSELF. I am speaking of the ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE OF LOVE that remains after BEING DISTILLED AND SEPARATED FROM ANY AND ALL OTHER ELEMENTAL MOTIVATIONS OR INTENTIONS.
Now onto Stage six programming…in your subconscious.
The Sixth Stage is the developmental stage of Young Adulthood (age 20-35 years old). This is generally the companionship and love-seeking stage. As such, the most significant relationships are those found with the friends and romantic associations we seek to build mutually satisfying relationships with.
Recall that from Stage Five on, your development depends primarily upon the conclusions you make about your Self in relation to your own behaviors. During Stage Six THE CONCLUSIONS YOU MAKE ABOUT YOUR SELF, IN RESPONSE TO YOUR EXPERIENCES OF LOVING AND BEING LOVED, IN PARTNERSHIP ARE CRUCIALLY IMPORTANT. You are being given the opportunity to DEFINE, AND CLARIFY, WHAT YOUR EXPERIENCE OF ‘TRUE’ LOVE IS (BOTH IN GIVING AND RECEIVING).
This process is occurring regardless of whether or not you are aware of it. As you progress, you may be pleasantly surprised, and relieved, to discover that ‘TRUE’ LOVE is a much different, and much more vast experience than you were TAUGHT TO EXPECT.
If you successfully separated and established your unique Sense of Self during Stage Five, you move on unimpeded to the task of negotiating Mutual Loving in intimate*** relationships.
If your Stage Five task remains unresolved, your relationships will serve up further experience that will press you towards completing this necessary developmental task.
It is critical that you BECOME AWARE THAT INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS WILL REVEAL YOUR UNRESOLVED ISSUES. The CORE ISSUE IS NOT OUTSIDE OF YOU. Your partner serves as a LITERAL MIRROR RELECTING YOUR INNERMOST FLAWED PROGRAMMING.
In order to realize inner peace and happiness, YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FACE YOUR REFLECTION.
An individual who has not developed a clear sense of identity in Stage Five may withdraw into isolation (mental, emotional or physical), unconsciously fearing what they might see in the reflection of committed relationship.
During Stage Six you learn:
1. How to Commit (or Devote) your Self in Trust while maintaining Rightful Guardianship of all aspects of your Self,
2. How to Let Go of control while still Lovingly Supporting your Self, and
3. How to Freely Choose to Express Love to others.
Realizing that your loved ones are your mirrors to Self Awareness, as you spontaneously and unconditionally experience love for them, you DISCOVER WHICH ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY DECIDED TO DISOWN—which aspects you were taught to believe are ‘unacceptable’ programs. Seen in this light, devoted relationships (partnership, marriage, parenthood, etc.) gift you the opportunity:
4. TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. By this I mean, to BE REAL IN EXPRESSING YOURSELF ACCURATELY WITHOUT CONDITION. BY SO DOING, YOU AUTOMATICALLY BEGIN TO RECLAIM ALL OF THE ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU HAVE PREVIOUSLY CONDEMNED.
Successful completion of Stage Six results in Mutually Satisfying Loving Relationships evidenced by the liberating sense of:
UNDERSTANDING FOOD ADDICTION...
“I Am Loving, and I Am Being Loved. I Am experiencing balanced, flowing, fulfilling reciprocity in my relationships. I Am experiencing ‘INTIMACY with SPACE TO EXPAND’ and ‘UNITY with RESPECT FOR INDEPENDENCE’ in my relationships with my Self and others.”
Experiencing Conditional Love and Lack of Mutuality in your relationships, may further perpetuate misunderstanding as to what Love really is. If I were to categorize my experiences of loving into one of only two possible categories—(1)-Love, or (2)-Not Love—the experience of ‘Being Loved Conditionally’ would fit in the ‘Not Love’ category.
For example, experiencing affection and other ‘loving’ behaviors withdrawn from you when you conform, or don’t conform, to certain standards is ‘Not Love’. This form of behavioral control and manipulation disguised as Love, if not recognized and called out as ‘Not Love’, reinforces the notion that your lovability is defined by your willingness to behave in certain ways. This experience of Not Being Truly Loved results in the underlying subconscious misperception:
“I Am not worth Being Loved.”
Control and Manipulation may be efforts to Love that are, in fact, ‘Not Love’. These Ways of Being can breed dependency, enslavement and addiction. ‘True’ Love breeds Free Will, Independence and Trust. The spiritual teaching, ‘By their fruits ye shall know them'**** applies. Many people in our culture have a difficult time comprehending the possibility of Loving, and Being Loved, Unconditionally. If you are one of them, I can help.
You were born Worthy of Being Loved. PURE LOVE is what you are.
HERE IS ESSENTIAL TRUTH of stage #6 SUBCONSCIOUSLY Programming
You possess the potential for every behavior that exists in the human condition, including those you judge as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. Every aspect you judge in another, you have SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED IN YOUR SELF.
Every aspect you’ve judged in yourself, YOU WILL BE COMPELLED TO CONDEMN IN OTHERS.
Your intimate relationships effectively mirror these condemned aspects to you—juxtaposed in the perplexing contradiction of feeling both Affection and Disgust towards someone you ‘Love.’
All of the potential aspects you have cast out will eventually demand your acknowledgement, acceptance, appreciation and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
As you effectively resolve the struggles you experience in your loving relationships—especially the experiences you find repulsive—you enroll the Unlimited Resources of All Aspects of your Intelligence, reclaim your Authority, and enhance your potential.
By UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING ANOTHER, you re-integrate the potential aspects of your Whole Self that you previously condemned.
THE SOLUTION:
LOOK AT THE ‘MIRRORS’ YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE PROVIDING FOR YOU. IDENTIFY AND OBSERVE THE ASPECTS YOU JUDGE AS ‘UNACCEPTABLE’ IN OTHERS. RECOGNIZING THESE JUDGMENTS AS LITERAL REFLECTIONS OF ‘PARTS OF YOUR SELF’ YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED, INTERPRET THE IMAGE AND ACCEPT YOUR CO-CREATIVE ROLE IN THE SITUATION.
Changing your flawed programming requires:
1. Opening your mind to the possibility that you’ve accepted limiting operations that are not necessarily true,
2. Locating the limiting program,
3. Challenging the truth of the program’s previously accepted limitations and
4. Consciously asserting and reinforcing your newly decided expansive conclusion.
If you are serious about changing, I encourage you to schedule
a FREE CONSULTATION with the treatment method I recommend:
Click Here: http://www.TheLiberatorMethod.com
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
NOTES:
Enabling Passages LOVING as a FOOD ADDICT.
In stage 6 of you may be experiencing complications relevant to ‘Sharing your Self’ with others (and/or being affected by your associate discussing themselves with you). This may appear as issues with closeness AND/OR as solitude in connection. Either polarized experience is a way of disappointed Common Adoring, which, uncertain, results in sensation disappointed and uneasiness in connection.
These potential food addiction and other signs may appear as:
Empty, or not satisfying relationships
Prejudice, narrow-mindedness—perceiving variations as threatening
Avoiding commitments
Fear of dropping control
Avoiding discussing yourself psychologically
Avoiding actual physical contact—for worry that this could cause to intimacy
Difficulty crucial appropriate boundaries—feeling either ‘compelled to be extensive open’, making yourself extremely exposed and susceptible to potential risks OR sensation ‘compelled to be shut off’, declining to discuss yourself with others
I recommend that these signs are not really your issue. They are only the actual physical results arising from the ERRONEOUS CONCLUSIONS YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY MADE ABOUT YOUR SELF (BASED ON A MISPERCEPTION OF REALITY) during the essential stage of development that happens between AGES 20 to 35 YEARS OLD*.
In a well-intended make an effort to AVOID A REPEAT EXPERIENCE OF EMOTIONAL PAIN that certainly comes with these misperceptions, you PROGRAMMED CERTAIN DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE BEHAVIOR.
The issues you have are THE PHYSICAL WORLD RESULTS OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS BEHAVIORAL PROGRAMS you ‘made-up’ with your unskilled thoughts.
The results, and organic restrictions, of your programs are now being shown to you for reevaluation—this time from the viewpoint of your extended experience.
In stage #5, I provided the concept that your external experience is merely a mirror—a LITERAL, ACCURATE REFLECTION OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ISSUE. If you are not prepared or willing to see this reflection, you will not be able to identify it. Even listening to me say this may bring up feelings of rage or rage within of you.
This is actually your EGO DOING ITS JOB of OBEYING YOUR ORIGINAL COMMAND, keeping the misinterpreted part of your Self (the part you’ve accidentally condemned) under secure and key—until you are CONSCIOUSLY READY to encourage this part returning into ‘all of the possibilities that you are’.
Your condemned possibilities are interacting literal, representational information. It is only a MATTER OF TIME until you identify them. Your lifestyle will constantly existing you with ‘compelling evidence’ until you are READY AND WILLING TO REINTEGRATE ALL THAT YOU ARE.
Experiencing issues in your loving connections is your experiential reflection showing that you are having issues ‘Loving All Factors of your Self’ (specifically the part that is being shown to you).
A subconscious program of ‘Conditional Self Love’ has performed itself out and has designed its results for you to experience in a actual physical type. You are being given the chance, from your viewpoint of older mature experience, to look at the aspects and re-decide your original issue.
STAGE SIX PROGRAMMING –20 to 35 YEARS OLD:
I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT I LEARNED:
(1)-TO LOVE CONDITIONALLY AND
(2)-TO ACCEPT ‘BEING LOVED CONDITIONALLY’ THROUGH SUGGESTION, MODELING, AND REINFORCEMENT.
(3) AS A CONSCIOUS ADULT, I ULTIMATELY GET TO COMPARE WHAT I’VE BEEN TAUGHT WITH MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
(4) I GET TO DECIDE WHAT CONDITIONS (IF ANY) I AM WILLING TO PLACE UPON MY SELF AND MY LOVING.
I AM CONSCIOUSLY BECOMING AWARE THAT MY ESSENTIAL NATURE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I AM ALSO AWARE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SET, AND HONOR, MY OWN BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS. AS I CONSCIOUSLY FILTER OUT AND RE-DECIDE THE ‘NECESSARY CONDITIONS’** I HAVE UNINTENTIONALLY ACCEPTED AND ATTACHED TO MY LOVING, I REALIZE THAT LOVE (LOVING AND BEING LOVED) IS MY PRIMARY MOTIVATION—THE SPARK, THAT IGNITES ALL THAT I DO.
What is love?
Before moving forward any further, I wish to further determine what I mean by the extremely misinterpreted phrase ‘Love’. Love is a Way of Being. We know what really like is through experience. Therefore, UNREFINED, the phrase ‘love’ indicates different significance to different individuals. When I talk of ‘True’ Love, I mean PURE LOVE—the ‘Way of Being Real and Accurate’ AS A MEANS, IN AND OF ITSELF. I am discussing of the ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE OF LOVE that continues to be after BEING DISTILLED AND SEPARATED FROM ANY AND ALL OTHER ELEMENTAL MOTIVATIONS OR INTENTIONS.
Now onto Stage six programming…in your subconscious.
The 6th Stage is the creating stage of Younger Adulthood (age 20-35 years old). This is usually the company and love-seeking stage. As such, the most essential connections are those discovered with the buddies and loving companies we aim to develop mutually satisfying connections with.
Recall that from Stage Five on, your development relies upon mainly upon the conclusions you create about your Self in relation to your own actions. During Stage Six THE CONCLUSIONS YOU MAKE ABOUT YOUR SELF, IN RESPONSE TO YOUR EXPERIENCES OF LOVING AND BEING LOVED, IN PARTNERSHIP ARE CRUCIALLY IMPORTANT. You are being given to be able to DEFINE, AND CLARIFY, WHAT YOUR EXPERIENCE OF ‘TRUE’ LOVE IS (BOTH IN GIVING AND RECEIVING).
This procedure is happening regardless of whether or not you are aware of it. As you improvement, you may be satisfied, and treated, to discover that ‘TRUE’ LOVE is a much different, and much more extensive experience than you were TAUGHT TO EXPECT.
If you successfully separated and recognized your exclusive A sense of Self during Stage Five, you move on unimpeded to the procedure of discussing Common Adoring in intimate*** connections.
If your Stage Five procedure continues to be uncertain, your connections will offer up further experience that will media you towards finishing this necessary creating procedure.
It is crucial that you BECOME AWARE THAT INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS WILL REVEAL YOUR UNRESOLVED ISSUES. The CORE ISSUE IS NOT OUTSIDE OF YOU. Your associate works as a LITERAL MIRROR RELECTING YOUR INNERMOST FLAWED PROGRAMMING.
In purchase to identify inner serenity and pleasure, YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FACE YOUR REFLECTION.
An personal who has not designed a apparent sensation of identity in Stage Five may take out into solitude (mental, psychological or physical), instinctively worrying what they might see in the reflection of dedicated connection.
During Stage Six you learn:
1. How to Make (or Devote) your Self in Believe in while keeping Rightful Guardianship of all aspects of your Self,
2. How to Let Go of management while still Adoringly Assisting your Self, and
3. How to Easily Decide to Express Like to others.
Realizing that your near relatives are your showcases to Self Interest, as you instantly and unconditionally experience really like for them, you DISCOVER WHICH ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY DECIDED TO DISOWN—which aspects you were trained to believe are ‘unacceptable’ programs. Seen in this mild, dedicated connections (partnership, wedding, being a mother or father, etc.) present you the opportunity:
4. TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. By this I mean, to BE REAL IN EXPRESSING YOURSELF ACCURATELY WITHOUT CONDITION. BY SO DOING, YOU AUTOMATICALLY BEGIN TO RECLAIM ALL OF THE ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU HAVE PREVIOUSLY CONDEMNED.
Effective finishing Stage Six results in Mutually Satisfying Adoring Relationships confirmed by the relieving sensation of:
UNDERSTANDING FOOD ADDICTION...
“I Am Adoring, and I Am Being Liked. I Am experiencing healthy and balanced, streaming, satisfying reciprocity in my connections. I Am experiencing ‘INTIMACY with SPACE TO EXPAND’ and ‘UNITY with RESPECT FOR INDEPENDENCE’ in my connections with my Self and others.”
Affected by Depending Love and Absence of Mutuality in your connections, may further perpetuate misconception as to what Love really is. If I were to classify my encounters of loving into one of only two possible categories—(1)-Love, or (2)-Not Love—the experience of ‘Being Liked Conditionally’ would fit in the ‘Not Love’ classification.
For example, experiencing passion and other ‘loving’ actions removed from you when you adjust, or don’t adjust, to certain requirements is ‘Not Love’. This way of behavioral management and adjustment hidden as Love, if not recognized and known as out as ‘Not Love’, supports the idea that your lovability is determined by your willingness a factor in certain methods. This experience of Not Being Truly Liked results in the actual subconscious misperception:
“I Am not value Being Liked.”
Control and Manipulation may be initiatives to Love that are, actually, ‘Not Love’. These Methods for Being can type reliance, enslavement and addiction. ‘True’ Love types Free Will, Freedom and Believe in. The spiritual educating, ‘By their fruits and vegetables ye shall know them'**** is applicable. Many individuals in our lifestyle have complications understanding the chance of Adoring, and Being Liked, At all. If you are one of them, I can help.
You were designed Worth Being Liked. PURE LOVE is what you are.
HERE IS ESSENTIAL TRUTH of stage #6 SUBCONSCIOUSLY Programming
You possess the risk of every behavior that prevails in a persons condition, such as those you evaluate as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. Every part you evaluate in another, you have SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED IN YOUR SELF.
Every part you’ve assessed in yourself, YOU WILL BE COMPELLED TO CONDEMN IN OTHERS.
Your loving connections successfully reflection these condemned aspects to you—juxtaposed in the difficult contradiction of sensation both Affection and Outrage towards someone you ‘Love.’
All of the chance aspects you have throw out will gradually demand your recognition, approval, admiration and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
As you successfully deal with the challenges you experience in your loving relationships—especially the encounters you discover repulsive—you join the Endless Resources of All Factors of your Intelligence, reclaim your Authority, and improve your potential.
By UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING ANOTHER, you re-integrate the chance aspects of your Whole Self that you formerly condemned.
THE SOLUTION:
LOOK AT THE ‘MIRRORS’ YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE PROVIDING FOR YOU. IDENTIFY AND OBSERVE THE ASPECTS YOU JUDGE AS ‘UNACCEPTABLE’ IN OTHERS. RECOGNIZING THESE JUDGMENTS AS LITERAL REFLECTIONS OF ‘PARTS OF YOUR SELF’ YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED, INTERPRET THE IMAGE AND ACCEPT YOUR CO-CREATIVE ROLE IN THE SITUATION.
Modifying your flawed programming requires:
1. Starting your thoughts to the chance that you’ve accepted restricting functions that are not really actual,
2. Finding the restricting program,
3. Complex the truth of the program’s formerly accepted restrictions and
4. Knowingly saying and strengthening your recently determined expansive summary.
If you are serious about changing, I encourage you to schedule
a FREE CONSULTATION with the treatment method I recommend:
Click Here: http://www.TheLiberatorMethod.com
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In stage 6 of you may be experiencing complications relevant to ‘Sharing your Self’ with others (and/or being affected by your associate discussing themselves with you). This may appear as issues with closeness AND/OR as solitude in connection. Either polarized experience is a way of disappointed Common Adoring, which, uncertain, results in sensation disappointed and uneasiness in connection.
These potential food addiction and other signs may appear as:
Empty, or not satisfying relationships
Prejudice, narrow-mindedness—perceiving variations as threatening
Avoiding commitments
Fear of dropping control
Avoiding discussing yourself psychologically
Avoiding actual physical contact—for worry that this could cause to intimacy
Difficulty crucial appropriate boundaries—feeling either ‘compelled to be extensive open’, making yourself extremely exposed and susceptible to potential risks OR sensation ‘compelled to be shut off’, declining to discuss yourself with others
I recommend that these signs are not really your issue. They are only the actual physical results arising from the ERRONEOUS CONCLUSIONS YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY MADE ABOUT YOUR SELF (BASED ON A MISPERCEPTION OF REALITY) during the essential stage of development that happens between AGES 20 to 35 YEARS OLD*.
In a well-intended make an effort to AVOID A REPEAT EXPERIENCE OF EMOTIONAL PAIN that certainly comes with these misperceptions, you PROGRAMMED CERTAIN DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR FUTURE BEHAVIOR.
The issues you have are THE PHYSICAL WORLD RESULTS OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS BEHAVIORAL PROGRAMS you ‘made-up’ with your unskilled thoughts.
The results, and organic restrictions, of your programs are now being shown to you for reevaluation—this time from the viewpoint of your extended experience.
In stage #5, I provided the concept that your external experience is merely a mirror—a LITERAL, ACCURATE REFLECTION OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS ISSUE. If you are not prepared or willing to see this reflection, you will not be able to identify it. Even listening to me say this may bring up feelings of rage or rage within of you.
This is actually your EGO DOING ITS JOB of OBEYING YOUR ORIGINAL COMMAND, keeping the misinterpreted part of your Self (the part you’ve accidentally condemned) under secure and key—until you are CONSCIOUSLY READY to encourage this part returning into ‘all of the possibilities that you are’.
Your condemned possibilities are interacting literal, representational information. It is only a MATTER OF TIME until you identify them. Your lifestyle will constantly existing you with ‘compelling evidence’ until you are READY AND WILLING TO REINTEGRATE ALL THAT YOU ARE.
Experiencing issues in your loving connections is your experiential reflection showing that you are having issues ‘Loving All Factors of your Self’ (specifically the part that is being shown to you).
A subconscious program of ‘Conditional Self Love’ has performed itself out and has designed its results for you to experience in a actual physical type. You are being given the chance, from your viewpoint of older mature experience, to look at the aspects and re-decide your original issue.
STAGE SIX PROGRAMMING –20 to 35 YEARS OLD:
I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT I LEARNED:
(1)-TO LOVE CONDITIONALLY AND
(2)-TO ACCEPT ‘BEING LOVED CONDITIONALLY’ THROUGH SUGGESTION, MODELING, AND REINFORCEMENT.
(3) AS A CONSCIOUS ADULT, I ULTIMATELY GET TO COMPARE WHAT I’VE BEEN TAUGHT WITH MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.
(4) I GET TO DECIDE WHAT CONDITIONS (IF ANY) I AM WILLING TO PLACE UPON MY SELF AND MY LOVING.
I AM CONSCIOUSLY BECOMING AWARE THAT MY ESSENTIAL NATURE IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I AM ALSO AWARE THAT I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SET, AND HONOR, MY OWN BOUNDARIES AND LIMITS. AS I CONSCIOUSLY FILTER OUT AND RE-DECIDE THE ‘NECESSARY CONDITIONS’** I HAVE UNINTENTIONALLY ACCEPTED AND ATTACHED TO MY LOVING, I REALIZE THAT LOVE (LOVING AND BEING LOVED) IS MY PRIMARY MOTIVATION—THE SPARK, THAT IGNITES ALL THAT I DO.
What is love?
Before moving forward any further, I wish to further determine what I mean by the extremely misinterpreted phrase ‘Love’. Love is a Way of Being. We know what really like is through experience. Therefore, UNREFINED, the phrase ‘love’ indicates different significance to different individuals. When I talk of ‘True’ Love, I mean PURE LOVE—the ‘Way of Being Real and Accurate’ AS A MEANS, IN AND OF ITSELF. I am discussing of the ESSENTIAL EXPERIENCE OF LOVE that continues to be after BEING DISTILLED AND SEPARATED FROM ANY AND ALL OTHER ELEMENTAL MOTIVATIONS OR INTENTIONS.
Now onto Stage six programming…in your subconscious.
The 6th Stage is the creating stage of Younger Adulthood (age 20-35 years old). This is usually the company and love-seeking stage. As such, the most essential connections are those discovered with the buddies and loving companies we aim to develop mutually satisfying connections with.
Recall that from Stage Five on, your development relies upon mainly upon the conclusions you create about your Self in relation to your own actions. During Stage Six THE CONCLUSIONS YOU MAKE ABOUT YOUR SELF, IN RESPONSE TO YOUR EXPERIENCES OF LOVING AND BEING LOVED, IN PARTNERSHIP ARE CRUCIALLY IMPORTANT. You are being given to be able to DEFINE, AND CLARIFY, WHAT YOUR EXPERIENCE OF ‘TRUE’ LOVE IS (BOTH IN GIVING AND RECEIVING).
This procedure is happening regardless of whether or not you are aware of it. As you improvement, you may be satisfied, and treated, to discover that ‘TRUE’ LOVE is a much different, and much more extensive experience than you were TAUGHT TO EXPECT.
If you successfully separated and recognized your exclusive A sense of Self during Stage Five, you move on unimpeded to the procedure of discussing Common Adoring in intimate*** connections.
If your Stage Five procedure continues to be uncertain, your connections will offer up further experience that will media you towards finishing this necessary creating procedure.
It is crucial that you BECOME AWARE THAT INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS WILL REVEAL YOUR UNRESOLVED ISSUES. The CORE ISSUE IS NOT OUTSIDE OF YOU. Your associate works as a LITERAL MIRROR RELECTING YOUR INNERMOST FLAWED PROGRAMMING.
In purchase to identify inner serenity and pleasure, YOU MUST BE WILLING TO FACE YOUR REFLECTION.
An personal who has not designed a apparent sensation of identity in Stage Five may take out into solitude (mental, psychological or physical), instinctively worrying what they might see in the reflection of dedicated connection.
During Stage Six you learn:
1. How to Make (or Devote) your Self in Believe in while keeping Rightful Guardianship of all aspects of your Self,
2. How to Let Go of management while still Adoringly Assisting your Self, and
3. How to Easily Decide to Express Like to others.
Realizing that your near relatives are your showcases to Self Interest, as you instantly and unconditionally experience really like for them, you DISCOVER WHICH ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY DECIDED TO DISOWN—which aspects you were trained to believe are ‘unacceptable’ programs. Seen in this mild, dedicated connections (partnership, wedding, being a mother or father, etc.) present you the opportunity:
4. TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. By this I mean, to BE REAL IN EXPRESSING YOURSELF ACCURATELY WITHOUT CONDITION. BY SO DOING, YOU AUTOMATICALLY BEGIN TO RECLAIM ALL OF THE ASPECTS OF YOUR SELF YOU HAVE PREVIOUSLY CONDEMNED.
Effective finishing Stage Six results in Mutually Satisfying Adoring Relationships confirmed by the relieving sensation of:
UNDERSTANDING FOOD ADDICTION...
“I Am Adoring, and I Am Being Liked. I Am experiencing healthy and balanced, streaming, satisfying reciprocity in my connections. I Am experiencing ‘INTIMACY with SPACE TO EXPAND’ and ‘UNITY with RESPECT FOR INDEPENDENCE’ in my connections with my Self and others.”
Affected by Depending Love and Absence of Mutuality in your connections, may further perpetuate misconception as to what Love really is. If I were to classify my encounters of loving into one of only two possible categories—(1)-Love, or (2)-Not Love—the experience of ‘Being Liked Conditionally’ would fit in the ‘Not Love’ classification.
For example, experiencing passion and other ‘loving’ actions removed from you when you adjust, or don’t adjust, to certain requirements is ‘Not Love’. This way of behavioral management and adjustment hidden as Love, if not recognized and known as out as ‘Not Love’, supports the idea that your lovability is determined by your willingness a factor in certain methods. This experience of Not Being Truly Liked results in the actual subconscious misperception:
“I Am not value Being Liked.”
Control and Manipulation may be initiatives to Love that are, actually, ‘Not Love’. These Methods for Being can type reliance, enslavement and addiction. ‘True’ Love types Free Will, Freedom and Believe in. The spiritual educating, ‘By their fruits and vegetables ye shall know them'**** is applicable. Many individuals in our lifestyle have complications understanding the chance of Adoring, and Being Liked, At all. If you are one of them, I can help.
You were designed Worth Being Liked. PURE LOVE is what you are.
HERE IS ESSENTIAL TRUTH of stage #6 SUBCONSCIOUSLY Programming
You possess the risk of every behavior that prevails in a persons condition, such as those you evaluate as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’. Every part you evaluate in another, you have SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED IN YOUR SELF.
Every part you’ve assessed in yourself, YOU WILL BE COMPELLED TO CONDEMN IN OTHERS.
Your loving connections successfully reflection these condemned aspects to you—juxtaposed in the difficult contradiction of sensation both Affection and Outrage towards someone you ‘Love.’
All of the chance aspects you have throw out will gradually demand your recognition, approval, admiration and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
As you successfully deal with the challenges you experience in your loving relationships—especially the encounters you discover repulsive—you join the Endless Resources of All Factors of your Intelligence, reclaim your Authority, and improve your potential.
By UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING ANOTHER, you re-integrate the chance aspects of your Whole Self that you formerly condemned.
THE SOLUTION:
LOOK AT THE ‘MIRRORS’ YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE PROVIDING FOR YOU. IDENTIFY AND OBSERVE THE ASPECTS YOU JUDGE AS ‘UNACCEPTABLE’ IN OTHERS. RECOGNIZING THESE JUDGMENTS AS LITERAL REFLECTIONS OF ‘PARTS OF YOUR SELF’ YOU’VE SUBCONSCIOUSLY CONDEMNED, INTERPRET THE IMAGE AND ACCEPT YOUR CO-CREATIVE ROLE IN THE SITUATION.
Modifying your flawed programming requires:
1. Starting your thoughts to the chance that you’ve accepted restricting functions that are not really actual,
2. Finding the restricting program,
3. Complex the truth of the program’s formerly accepted restrictions and
4. Knowingly saying and strengthening your recently determined expansive summary.
If you are serious about changing, I encourage you to schedule
a FREE CONSULTATION with the treatment method I recommend:
Click Here: http://www.TheLiberatorMethod.com
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